That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace:
As daughters of the King, it is important that we present ourselves with dignity and grace. The verse above describes young women, daughters, who are polished cornerstones who are both ornamental and useful, prominent in the roles their play and standing as examples.
Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.
We take on the roles of examples, of lights, witnesses and testifiers. We are not conformists, but are the “trendsetters”, for lack of a better word – instead of being influenced by what is around us, we influence others and actively make disciples (for Jesus).
It i s because of this role that we must learn to conduct ourselves as women of high value (a price above rubies), of worth, of quality and of substance. This is born out of a consecrated, set-apart life lived in devotion to God, and shows itself in the fruit of our lives – wisdom, the fruits of the Spirit, and so forth.
But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
Scripture describes us as God’s workmanship – we are being molded in order to be used by Him!
But now, O LORD, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand.
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour. If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work.
(2 Timothy 2:20-21)
God’s will for us is not to be rough-hewn, but beautiful. We are imperfect, but He is perfecting us so that we can be part of His spotless, wrinkle-less and blemish-less church.
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
If this is true in our relationship with God and in the way He is changing and transforming us, this can also be applied in our daily lives and how we present ourselves. Of course, all of us are royal daughters in training.
What are some ways in which we can mature and in which we can further develop as royal daughters in training? Here are some that I thought of:
- Deportment – how we behave and carry ourselves (wisdom, integrity, etc.)
- Etiquette and Decorum – being sensible, sober, behaving with propriety and wisdom rather than being “silly”, “flirtatious, etc.”
- Dress – Humble, ostentatious, respectable, respectful, and so forth. Dressing in a way “that becomes godliness”.
- Maturity in how we handle friendships and relationships
And David behaved himself wisely in all his ways; and the LORD was with him.
(1 Samuel 18:14)
Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
(1 Timothy 3:11)
One of my spiritual “mentors”, a dear mother/sister in the Lord I love dearly, is someone who believes in dressing well (appropriately) to honour the people she sees, honor the Lord, and honor her husband. She dresses with the dignity of a lady, and the daughter of a king. In some circumstances, we may dress plainly and humbly, but there really is nothing wrong, in my opinion, in being graceful, feminine, and tasteful.